What do big frustration responses mean?
If this child knew how important it is he would do better, I need to give him a good reason to do better.
This child is manipulating and co-ercing the adults in his life with his explosive behaviour
This child is testing the limits (this is true of everyone and therefor a useless thing to think)
If this child wasn’t lazy or difficult he’d do better...
If this child can sometimes get it right, he should be able to always get it right. I need to add more consequences when he doesn’t do well!
Ultimately all these assumption has one underlying assumption: More effort will have my kid do better.
What if that assumption is incorrect?
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